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The most important thing I learned in graduate school was obviously a very easy sentence. I will always remember my professor Dr. Lawson saying, "You are the therapy."
"What the heck did that mean?" I thought.
What he meant was that my therapy comes from my experience. It also meant that what I learned from life could be the medicine that I brings to individuals. It stuck out in my mind because of the conviction in the voice when he explained it. At that time I had not necessarily learned enough about counseling to find out just how much of a guiding principle this may be personally. I knew that I was attending graduate school for counseling psychology because I felt God leading me for the reason that direction. I was also wanting to hide the guilt from my past. I was wanting to keep it from my psychology teachers...
I was obviously a little paranoid. I thought often to myself that maybe these were onto me. I just knew these were secretly diagnosing me. Could they use their secret psychology powers to locate the things I had done inside my previous Art Colleges In Sarasota Fl "experiences?" If they found would they believe a smaller amount of me as a Christian, or as a student? Ok, that's enough self -disclosure. You might learn an excessive amount of about me in case you keep nagging me similar to this. Ok, fine. I'll inform you.
I became aware of a verse in Romans plus it changed my life. Romans 8:28 says, "And we all know that God causes all things to work together permanently to those who love God, to those who will be called based on His purpose." I was immediately conscious Paul, who wrote this passage, struggled together with his own sin, and he was obviously a prominent writer of New Testament books. If Paul could struggle together with his own life story and stay confident that God was using his life to point to Jesus, then who am I to express that God cannot use my life to point to Jesus? This made Dr. Lawson's point hit home personally.
Now, as a therapist and as a teacher, I draw on my life stories to normalize what folks reveal in therapy and class. I don't want visitors to be paranoid about my "secret psychology powers." The truth is I'm a minimum of as broken as they are. I have days where my lady tolerates me, and my daughter is not impressed with how I push her about the swing. But one thing I have found is always that just being genuine with my lady and my daughter works a lot better than wanting to be perfect or wanting to hide behind appearing to be perfect. Also as a teacher, I find that people correspond with my stories of experiencing stuttering problems as a teenager (up to I was about 21 really). They like to listen for that I was suspended from college (twice, but who's counting) for bad grades.
People appreciate a humble person who has learned from mistakes, greater than they respect an egomaniac. They would much rather hear that I was broken for several years, and then created a dramatic turnaround. So when I talk about overcoming failure attending college, the storyline doesn't lead to me remaining school. I turned from my sinful choices, and then went onto make straight A's through the entire rest of Art Colleges In Sarasota Fl and graduate school. When I think back to my days of failure, celebrate my current situation seem unreal. How does a stuttering, kid who can't motivate himself enough to really make an appearance to his classes, go onto make straight A's in graduate school? How does he turned into a licensed talk therapist and then marry a speech therapist?
Because... God causes all things to work together permanently, to those who love God, to those who will be called based on His purpose. It's a superior, plus much more real story than the letters behind my name would make you believe. Billy Barnett MS, LMHC.