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The most important thing I learned in graduate school was a quite easy sentence. I will always bear in mind my professor Dr. Lawson saying, "You will be the therapy."
"What the heck did that mean?" I thought.
What he meant was that my therapy originates from my experience. It also meant what I learned from life will be the medicine that I will bring to the people. It stuck out in my head due to the conviction as part of his voice when he was quoted saying it. At that time I had not necessarily learned enough about counseling to know just how much of an guiding principle this may be for me personally. I knew that I was attending graduate school for counseling psychology because I felt God leading me in that direction. I was also wanting to hide the guilt from my past. I was wanting to keep it from my psychology teachers...
I was a little paranoid. I thought more often than not to myself that maybe they were on to me. I just knew they were secretly diagnosing me. Could they use their secret psychology powers to uncover the things I had done during my previous Colleges And Universities In Orlando Area "experiences?" If they learned would believe that a smaller amount of me being a Christian, or being a student? Ok, that's enough self -disclosure. You might learn an excessive amount of about me in the event you keep nagging me such as this. Ok, fine. I'll show you.
I became aware of an verse in Romans and it changed playing. Romans 8:28 says, "And we understand that God causes things to operate together for good to people who love God, to people who're called according to His purpose." I was immediately conscious of Paul, who wrote this passage, struggled regarding his own sin, and the man was a prominent writer of New Testament books. If Paul could struggle regarding his own life story and stay positive that God was using his life to point out to Jesus, then who am I to say that God can't use playing to point out to Jesus? This made Dr. Lawson's point hit home for me personally.
Now, being a therapist and being a teacher, I draw on playing stories to normalize what folks reveal in therapy and class. I don't want people to be paranoid about my "secret psychology powers." The truth is I'm a minimum of as broken since they are. I have days where my lady tolerates me, and my daughter is just not impressed with how I push her about the swing. But one thing I have found is the fact that just being genuine with my lady and my daughter works a lot better than wanting to be perfect or wanting to hide behind coming across as perfect. Also being a teacher, I find that folks connect with my stories of having stuttering problems being a teenager (up to I was about 21 really). They like to hear that I was suspended from college (twice, but who's counting) for bad grades.
People appreciate a humble one who has learned from mistakes, a lot more than they respect an egomaniac. They would much rather hear that I was broken for several years, and then created a dramatic turnaround. So when I talk about overcoming failure in college, the storyplot doesn't end in me remaining school. I turned from my sinful choices, and then went on to make straight A's throughout the remainder of Colleges And Universities In Orlando Area and graduate school. When I think back to my days of failure, commemorate my current situation seem unreal. How does a stuttering, kid who can't motivate himself enough to make an appearance to his classes, go on to make straight A's in graduate school? How does he turned into a licensed talk therapist and then marry a delivery therapist?
Because... God causes things to operate together for good, to people who love God, to people who're called according to His purpose. It's a superior, and much more real story compared to letters behind my name would send you to believe. Billy Barnett MS, LMHC.