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The most important thing I learned in graduate school was a quite simple sentence. I will always remember my professor Dr. Lawson saying, "You are the therapy."
"What the heck did that mean?" I thought.
What he meant was that my therapy originates from my experience. It also meant that what I learned from life is the medicine that I will bring to the people. It stuck in my thoughts because of the conviction in the voice when he was quoted saying it. At that time I had not necessarily learned enough about counseling to understand how much of a guiding principle this would be personally. I knew that I was attending graduate school for counseling psychology because I felt God leading me in that direction. I was also trying to hide the guilt from my past. I was trying to keep it from my psychology teachers...
I was a little paranoid. I thought more often than not to myself that maybe they were on me. I just knew they were secretly diagnosing me. Could they normally use their secret psychology powers to locate the things I had done within my previous Community Colleges In Bradenton Fl "experiences?" If they learned would they believe a smaller amount of me as a Christian, or as a student? Ok, that's enough self -disclosure. You might learn a lot of about me in case you keep nagging me similar to this. Ok, fine. I'll let you know.
I became aware of a verse in Romans and it changed my life. Romans 8:28 says, "And we all know that God causes as much as possible to work together forever to prospects who love God, to prospects who will be called according to His purpose." I was immediately conscious Paul, who wrote this passage, struggled together with his own sin, and that he was a prominent writer of New Testament books. If Paul could struggle together with his own life story and be positive that God was using his life to point out to Jesus, then who am I to say that God could not use my life to point out to Jesus? This made Dr. Lawson's point hit home personally.
Now, as a therapist and as a teacher, I draw on my life stories to normalize what folks reveal in therapy and class. I don't want people to be paranoid about my "secret psychology powers." The truth is I'm no less than as broken as is also. I have days where my wife tolerates me, and my daughter is not impressed with how I push her about the swing. But one thing I have found is just being genuine with my wife and my daughter works a lot better than trying to be perfect or trying to hide behind coming across as perfect. Also as a teacher, I find that people correspond with my stories of getting stuttering problems as a teenager (up until I was about 21 really). They like to listen for that I was suspended from college (twice, but who's counting) for bad grades.
People appreciate a humble individual who has learned from mistakes, greater than they respect an egomaniac. They would much rather hear that I was broken for several years, and after that designed a dramatic turnaround. So when I mention overcoming failure attending college, the storyplot doesn't end in me dropping out of school. I turned from my sinful choices, and after that went on make straight A's throughout the most Community Colleges In Bradenton Fl and graduate school. When I think back to my times of failure, celebrate my current situation seem unreal. How does a stuttering, kid who can't motivate himself enough to really show up to his classes, go on make straight A's in graduate school? How does he become a licensed talk therapist and after that marry an address therapist?
Because... God causes as much as possible to work together forever, to prospects who love God, to prospects who will be called according to His purpose. It's a far better, and much more real story as opposed to letters behind my name would make you believe. Billy Barnett MS, LMHC.