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The most important thing I learned in graduate school would be a quite easy sentence. I will always bear in mind my professor Dr. Lawson saying, "You would be the therapy."
"What the heck did that mean?" I thought.
What he meant was that my therapy originates from my experience. It also meant what I learned from life is the medicine that I brings to individuals. It stuck in my mind because of the conviction as part of his voice when he explained it. At that time I had certainly not learned enough about counseling to know the amount of an guiding principle this would be for me. I knew that I was attending graduate school for counseling psychology because I felt God leading me because direction. I was also wanting to hide the guilt from my past. I was wanting to keep it from my psychology teachers...
I would be a little paranoid. I thought many times to myself that maybe they were on me. I just knew they were secretly diagnosing me. Could they normally use their secret psychology powers to locate the things I had done during my previous Empire Beauty School Lakeland Florida "experiences?" If they found would believe that a lesser amount of me as being a Christian, or as being a student? Ok, that's enough self -disclosure. You might learn too much about me in the event you keep nagging me this way. Ok, fine. I'll let you know.
I became aware of an verse in Romans and it changed my entire life. Romans 8:28 says, "And we realize that God causes all things to function together for good to prospects who love God, to prospects who are called according to His purpose." I was immediately conscious that Paul, who wrote this passage, struggled together with his own sin, anf the husband would be a prominent writer of New Testament books. If Paul could struggle together with his own life story and become certain that God was using his life to point out to Jesus, then who am I to state that God can't use my entire life to point out to Jesus? This made Dr. Lawson's point hit home for me.
Now, as being a therapist and as being a teacher, I draw on my entire life stories to normalize what individuals reveal in therapy and class. I don't want visitors to be paranoid about my "secret psychology powers." The truth is I'm at least as broken because they are. I have days where my wife tolerates me, and my daughter is just not impressed with how I push her about the swing. But one thing I have found is that just being genuine with my wife and my daughter works as good as wanting to be perfect or wanting to hide behind coming across as perfect. Also as being a teacher, I find that men and women relate to my stories of having stuttering problems as being a teenager (getting the club I was about 21 really). They like to listen to that I was suspended from college (twice, but who's counting) for bad grades.
People appreciate a humble person who has learned from mistakes, a lot more than they respect an egomaniac. They would much rather hear that I was broken for quite a while, and after that developed a dramatic turnaround. So when I mention overcoming failure attending school, the storyline doesn't result in me dropping out of school. I turned from my sinful choices, and after that went on make straight A's throughout the remainder of Empire Beauty School Lakeland Florida and graduate school. When I think back to my days of failure, it can make my current situation seem unreal. How does a stuttering, kid who can't motivate himself enough to make an appearance to his classes, go on make straight A's in graduate school? How does he be a licensed talk therapist and after that marry a speech therapist?
Because... God causes all things to function together for good, to prospects who love God, to prospects who are called according to His purpose. It's a superior, plus much more real story compared to letters behind my name would lead you to believe. Billy Barnett MS, LMHC.