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The most important thing I learned in graduate school was a quite simple sentence. I will remember my professor Dr. Lawson saying, "You include the therapy."
"What the heck did that mean?" I thought.
What he meant was that my therapy arises from my experience. It also meant what I learned from life is the medicine that I would bring to folks. It stuck outside in my thoughts due to the conviction in the voice when he said it. At that time I had not really learned enough about counseling to find out just how much of an guiding principle this may be to me. I knew that I was attending graduate school for counseling psychology because I felt God leading me in this direction. I was also wanting to hide the guilt from my past. I was wanting to keep it from my psychology teachers...
I was a little paranoid. I thought often times to myself that maybe they were on me. I just knew they were secretly diagnosing me. Could they normally use their secret psychology powers to discover the things I had done in my previous Online Associate Degree Programs Sonography "experiences?" If they discovered would they think a reduced amount of me like a Christian, or like a student? Ok, that's enough self -disclosure. You might learn too much about me in case you keep nagging me like this. Ok, fine. I'll tell you.
I became aware of an verse in Romans also it changed my life. Romans 8:28 says, "And we know that God causes as much as possible to be effective together forever to those who love God, to those who're called as outlined by His purpose." I was immediately aware that Paul, who wrote this passage, struggled together with his own sin, and the man was a prominent writer of New Testament books. If Paul could struggle together with his own life story and stay confident that God was using his life to point out to Jesus, then who am I to say that God couldn't use my life to point out to Jesus? This made Dr. Lawson's point hit home to me.
Now, like a therapist and like a teacher, I draw on my life stories to normalize what people reveal in therapy and class. I don't want visitors to be paranoid about my "secret psychology powers." The truth is I'm no less than as broken as is also. I have days where my spouse tolerates me, and my daughter isn't impressed with how I push her around the swing. But one thing I have found is the fact that just being genuine with my spouse and my daughter works a lot better than wanting to be perfect or wanting to hide behind coming across as perfect. Also like a teacher, I find that men and women correspond with my stories of needing stuttering problems like a teenager (until I was about 21 really). They like to listen for that I was suspended from college (twice, but who's counting) for bad grades.
People appreciate a humble person who has learned from mistakes, greater than they respect an egomaniac. They would much rather hear that I was broken for several years, after which developed a dramatic turnaround. So when I mention overcoming failure while attending college, the storyplot doesn't end in me quitting school. I turned from my sinful choices, after which went on make straight A's during the entire remainder of Online Associate Degree Programs Sonography and graduate school. When I think back to my times of failure, it can make my current situation seem unreal. How does a stuttering, kid who can't motivate himself enough to actually arrive to his classes, go on make straight A's in graduate school? How does he become a licensed talk therapist after which marry a speech therapist?
Because... God causes as much as possible to be effective together forever, to those who love God, to those who're called as outlined by His purpose. It's a much better, plus more real story than the letters behind my name would make you believe. Billy Barnett MS, LMHC.