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The most important thing I learned in graduate school was a quite easy sentence. I will always bear in mind my professor Dr. Lawson saying, "You will be the therapy."
"What the heck did that mean?" I thought.
What he meant was that my therapy comes from my experience. It also meant what I learned from life will be the medicine that I would bring to folks. It stuck outside in my mind because of the conviction in his voice when he explained it. At that time I had not really learned enough about counseling to understand the amount of an guiding principle this would be personally. I knew that I was attending graduate school for counseling psychology because I felt God leading me in this direction. I was also wanting to hide the guilt from my past. I was wanting to keep it from my psychology teachers...
I was a little paranoid. I thought more often than not to myself that maybe these folks were on me. I just knew these folks were secretly diagnosing me. Could they use their secret psychology powers to uncover the things I had done during my previous Orlando Colleges And Universities List "experiences?" If they found would believe that less of me like a Christian, or like a student? Ok, that's enough self -disclosure. You might learn too much about me if you keep nagging me such as this. Ok, fine. I'll let you know.
I became aware of an verse in Romans also it changed my well being. Romans 8:28 says, "And we all know that God causes as much as possible to operate together permanently to the people who love God, to the people who are called in accordance with His purpose." I was immediately conscious that Paul, who wrote this passage, struggled along with his own sin, and that he was a prominent writer of New Testament books. If Paul could struggle along with his own life story and stay certain that God was using his life to point out to Jesus, then who am I to express that God couldn't use my well being to point out to Jesus? This made Dr. Lawson's point hit home personally.
Now, like a therapist and like a teacher, I draw on my well being stories to normalize what individuals reveal in therapy and class. I don't want individuals to be paranoid about my "secret psychology powers." The truth is I'm at the very least as broken as they are. I have days where my partner tolerates me, and my daughter is not impressed with how I push her for the swing. But one thing I have found is the fact that just being genuine with my partner and my daughter works a lot better than wanting to be perfect or wanting to hide behind appearing to be perfect. Also like a teacher, I find that men and women relate with my stories of needing stuttering problems like a teenager (up until I was about 21 really). They like to know that I was suspended from college (twice, but who's counting) for bad grades.
People appreciate a humble one who has learned from mistakes, a lot more than they respect an egomaniac. They would much rather hear that I was broken for many years, after which made a dramatic turnaround. So when I talk about overcoming failure while attending college, the storyline doesn't end in me dropping out of school. I turned from my sinful choices, after which went on make straight A's throughout the rest of Orlando Colleges And Universities List and graduate school. When I think back to my days of failure, it can make my current situation seem unreal. How does a stuttering, kid who can't motivate himself enough to really make an appearance to his classes, go on make straight A's in graduate school? How does he become a licensed talk therapist after which marry a delivery therapist?
Because... God causes as much as possible to operate together permanently, to the people who love God, to the people who are called in accordance with His purpose. It's a far better, plus much more real story as opposed to letters behind my name would make you believe. Billy Barnett MS, LMHC.